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My Very Real Dad – Thoughts on my “Non-Biological” yet Real Father

When I was younger, I tried to hide from people the fact that my Dad wasn’t my ‘real’ Dad. Isn’t that just about the worst phrase by the way? Not real, seems to indicate; not true, not valid, not whole. School friends of mine were kept deliberately in the dark. I didn’t want my Dad to …

What If HCBM (high conflict bio mom) Isn’t High Conflict?

Many of us stepmoms deal with a bio mom who is high conflict. If you asked me a year ago, I would have said my step kids’ mom high incredibly high conflict. Heck, if you had asked me about five months ago, I would have still held strong in that belief. But now? I would …